I had a mother's meltdown while driving my 17 year old daughter to the train station today so she could spend her 18th birthday (tomorrow) with her friend. She neglected to tell me she was coming home Monday not tomorrow so I was upset with her for that omission. I was hurt and also realized in that moment she is an adult now. So it was very emotional for me to realize I had to let go. I felt like an idiot for my reaction and I realized I have more work to do. I apologized and so did she. So when I read your words, I cried. I guess I was playing the caregiver that felt underappreciated and somewhat deceived.

Thank you for sharing the back story.

My dad was a narcissist too I always chose my mom as my dad was a really hard man to please. My mom could be tough but loving. She stayed in a loveless marriage because of her kids because that is what you did back then. She only got out when he died. My mom always chose us. I loved my dad too despite the fact I felt I never did anything good enough for him.

Too much sharing? lol